Words by Kenny Adaba
When it comes to love, I feel like I’m part of the 1 in 10 people who has been unlucky with that.
I will describe my past “Entanglements” as bad romantic relationships. It’s more or less like this love thing might just not be for me Lol.!
Yes, I get male attentions and 3 years ago me wanted the attention and would be so happy about it. But Then, I realised once I received this attentions, I don’t like it or I just don’t want it anymore.
in terms of romantic relationships, I can say I’ve only had genuine love or rather feel genuinely loved by one person.
I’ve been on multiple dates and I’ve met different people but there is always a similar pattern with the dating process. While the whole process is fun, exciting and I always want it to grow into something long term and beautiful, It always end up getting to a point where I’m just like nah! This person ain’t for me. I’m not a picky person I just know what I want and when I do not see it in that person I tend to let them know straight up. I know some people will say oh just keep him there until you meet someone you actually like. But, I will rather not waste someone’s precious time or waste my own time entertaining someone I probably can’t Tolerate. According to Benjamin Franklin, “A Lost Time Is Never Found Again”.
One thing that made me feel so comfortable with losing someone during the early stage of dating is heartbreak. I was in a relationship with this guy I really liked. You know that kind of love you have for someone that you’ve already imagined your big day with them? you’ve imagined you guys in your dream home with your kids running around and you both just chilling on the sofa? Yeah that type of love. At first, it was very hard to deal with losing someone you thought would be in your life forever but as time went on, it got better and I realised I needed that experience to become the woman I am now.
One of my friends once told me the reason I always end up without a relationship is because I am too loyal during the talking stage. At this age and stage in my life, When I’m talking to someone new and I see them as a potential, I tend to stop entertaining other people. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to say I’ve not spoken to atleast two people at the same time. Matter of fact, there was a time I was just going on different dates with different people and to be honest, it was kind of fun Lol!. However, the only reason I will entertain more than one person is if I do not see any of them as a potential at that particular moment.
Second time is a charm? Well, not for me. Once you’ve messed up the first time, it’s a wrap. I’ve had guys come back for a second chance for different reasons. But, once I see you for who you really are, I really can’t be with you on that level anymore. I can keep them as friends but not as romantic partners. Again this might be one of the many reasons why my love life is boring. Maybe I just need to learn to give people a second chance to actually prove themselves ?
Presently, I have a lot on my table and entertaining multiple people is not on it. Writing, Reading, Promoting my products and just developing my self and life in general are the things I’m mainly focused on. However, one day I hope I will be lucky enough to find my knight in shining armour and eventually have my/our happily ever after. 🥰
There’s a lot more to write about and I really can’t fit them all into a blog post. So, I’m hoping one day, I Will have the opportunity and privilege to write a book based on this topic.
Overall, my love life has taught me a lot of things . It has made me understand the value of patience and as given me the opportunity to know what I should and should not allow in my future relationships.
There’s someone for everyone and your soulmate Will eventually find their way to you when the time is right.
Kenny’s Takeaway Quote
“God’s timing is always on time”