Spending time with people who genuinely loves you and wish you well is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your future. 

A lot of people have friends but not friends to build or be successful with. all they want are friends they can sit around and talk about other people and their business. The day you start surrounding yourself with positive people, is the day you will start experiencing positive outcomes in your life. According to JIM ROHN, you are 80% the people you surround yourself with. If all your friends do is party, chances are all you will do is spend your time partying. If you surround yourself with people who spend their time reading good books, chances are you will also read good books.

Although, I do not believe that birds of the same feather’s flocks together. But I believe that your friends define who you are. If you have 4 fools as friends, you will be the 5thone. you must surround yourself with people who share the same core value as you. People who want the best for you even if they are not at their own best. A lot of people, women especially tend to make friends with people who are secretly in competition with them. People that act like they wish you well but lowkey hopes you don’t do as well as them. People that act like they want to see you win but lowkey hopes that you don’t win more than them. If you have goals to achieve, Being friends with this type of people or surrounding yourself with this type of people is very dangerous.

You need to understand that some friends are to be kept at arm length. You can and should only love them from far and if their presence is very toxic, you should cut them off completely. I will also relate this to our romantic relationship with the opposite sex, but this will be another post for another day. 

After reading this post, I want you to take the time out to ask yourself, what does this person bring to me? How do they benefit my life now? How will their presence in my life affect my future? 

TIP: Apply the 80/20 rules when it comes to spending time with people. Have friends for different purposes and spend more time with the ones that impact your life positively.  For example, spend more time with the ones that loves reading and improving themselves than you do with the ones that constantly want to stay partying. 

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