This is to all my girls age 25 and below!!
The older you get, the more you know about life, and the more you learn about yourself.
Below are the things I wish I knew earlier;
Self love – Love yourself more than you love anything else in this world! Only you can love you how you want to be loved.
Family – Do not underestimate the power of speaking to your family about whatever is bothering you. A lot of time, they won’t judge you the way you think they will.
Friendship – You’re friends are not always your friends! And You do not need 10 thousand friends. Matter of fact, if you have 30 friends, 25 of them most definitely hates you. 2-3 solid people in your circle is enough but have atleast one older friend (female) and one trustworthy male friend.
Ambition – your ambition should come before anything. Get that degree, apprenticeship, build an empire, have something reasonable going on for you. As a lady, even if you admire to be a house-wife, make sure you have something to fall back too if things doesn’t work out in the long run.
Men – in a world where we all equate expensive gifts, trips & fine dining as princess treatment, find a man that actually respects you for who you are, loves your soul, your heart and you are a person. An established guy is good but a not yet established but ambitious guy with respect, loyalty and love for you is better. If you find one, treat him like a king. Respect him, support him, be submissive but don’t be his doormat.
A lot of men will want you, but not all of them value you! Be very wise majority of the time they only want one thing and will portray themselves as what you want to get what they need.
Relationship – After speaking to women who dated older men as young girls, Unless you’re 28-30+ or a sugar baby, you have no business dating a man 10+ years older than you. This is not hollywood and You certainly won’t be jay z and Beyoncé. And No you’re not attracted to older men you’re attracted to the security they give you. E.g financial security. If your age mate gave you the same thing, they will be your type too 🙂
Look at it this way, when you were 10 that man was 20 He was almost done with uni while you’ve barely started primary school. What do you think you have in common with him? Again I’m not saying no to age gaps relationships, I’m saying don’t do it until you’re in your late 20s because by then, you most definitely must have figure out what works and doesn’t work for you in terms of finding a life partner.
Feminist – Avoid the bitter ones! Some of them are only feminists because they genuinely just hate men and are trying to project that onto younger girls thinking they are helping you stay woke. Feminist coach’s such as Michelle Obama, Maya Angelou & Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie are great feminist to emulate instead.
Self respect -Your self respect needs to be stronger than your feelings. Always put yourself first and be ready to walk away when a situation does not serve you anymore. E.g, work, friendship, relationship and toxic families.
A lot of people will tell you you’re young and you still have time, but I personally believe Early bird gets the worm so make hay whilst the sun shines.
This are the only thing I like think of at the moment. If you’re 25 and over, please leave a comment for the things a young lady 25 and below should work on or look out for.