Taking A Break

After a well thought through decision, I have decided to take a break from blogging. Running errands, keeping up with friends, and everyday routine while juggling work all seems to be a bit too much and making it hard for me to recharge when I need it the most.

I have noticed myself lacking motivation to even write a blog post not to talk of uploading it. and when I eventually do, I feel like it was forced and barely want to have it published. I am always a go-to person when it comes to organising and having things on track and ready for delivery. But I just can no longer muster the motivation. 

I don’t want to get to the point where blogging starts to feel like a burden. 

I believe it is time for me to take time back and re-set my priorities. Therefore, I have decided to take 2 weeks break from blogging, writing, and updating social media in regards to anything that has to do with kennysdiary. 

Ps: all books delivery will still be taken. Just order directly from my website (kennysdiary) and your order will be posted ASAP. 

Thank you so much lovelies! I really appreciate the love, support and what not. However, it is time for me to step back and get my mind right. I promise to be back to writing, blogging, and reading with the most positive mindset. 

Yours sincerely,

Kenny

Xx 

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life update

Lately, life has been feeling chaotic. One minute you feel like the happiest person alive and the next it feels like you don’t even know who you are. You see yourself spending more and more time by yourself, going solo for things, and not wanting anyone to bother or disturb you. I can sit here and type to you that life has been all roses and flowers. But, it hasn’t. I will be lying to you and if the world lies to you, you cannot lie to yourself. I came into the new year with so much positivity, but I guess its life and it has a way of showing itself. In the most unexpected time as well. 

Mental health journey 

I have always prioritised my mental health first. However, lately, my mental health seems to be having its own moments. I suddenly started feeling the weight of it all again. Having mental breakdowns and emotional moments. It’s like your body is constantly living in a flight or fight mode. Due to these reasons, I have decided to start rewarding myself with wellness retreats, meditating, moving my body regularly and eat healthy. 

Being alone

I have spent most of my time this year alone and staying to myself. I feel like I am misunderstood and the more I try getting close to people the more I subconsciously trigger something in them that I am totally not aware off. this, has made me come to the hard decision that you know what, I might as well spend time alone and be by myself rather than ruin relationships with people I genuinely like. I mean, it is easier to love people from far than be overly close with them. I have learnt how to be a lone without being lonely. So, it does not bother me really. 

Indecisive

Been indecisive is another thing I have been struggling with now. I can tell you it is a horrible place to be. Indecision keeps you stuck, and sometimes it will keep you stuck forever. I have been wanting change in my life, career, moving house, and travelling. However, the fear of making the wrong decision has been holding me back. I see myself as someone who goes for what she wants regardless of the consequences. But I am taking the necessary steps to ensure I do not get stuck in this mindset. 

With this, I will be taking a break from life and just take time to recharge. This, will be elaborated in more details in my blog post next week. 

If you are struggling with where you are in life now, or maybe things aren’t going as you had expected, I promise you, you are not alone. Remember, no one has it together and do not get carried away with people controlled online content. 

Restaurant review -feya

Hey lovelies, welcome to a new week of Kennydiary!

I visited a cafe in London few weeks ago and i really loved it. So, I will like to share a review with you lot because why not?? Although, I like to gate-keep places I enjoyed in other to prevent it from been overcrowded lol. However, this is a very lovely place that I think everyone, my girly girls especially, will love to visit.

Feya cafe is located in about three different locations around London. I visited the one in James Street Marylebone.

Feya cafe is a perfect place for afternoon tea or dessert. I went there on a afternoon for coffee with a friend. We had waffles that was well served, warm, soft and presentable. I’ve had a lot of waffles before, so, I can say with not hesitation that this was the best one I’ve ever tried. It’s filling and very worth it.

The staff were so accommodating, gave use a spot without reservation. Made sure we had enough time to pick what we wanted from the menu and taking back our order with no hassle .

The ambiance at feya is so lovely, the interior decoration is very chic and great. If you are a girly girl who loves pink interior deco and a lady like environment, I will definitely recommend you visiting this restaurant. The whole vibe was just very warm and friendly.

Although, it is a bit pricey, but I can assure you it is worth every penny and you will be getting value for money.

With all that being said, one thing I didn’t like about this place was the toilet. To be honest it is enough to put anyone off from ever visiting again. However, their good service and food made me had a rethink about the place. So overall, it’s a nice place for afternoon tea or dessert and nothing more.

What I do when I feel like giving up

Being consistent is something I have always struggled with. I am struggling today and maybe you might be able to relate with me too.

I have always written blog post everyday Thursday, week after week, month after month and year after year. But today, I feel like giving up. today I am struggling. Today, I didn’t feel like picking my laptop up to write. Today, I didn’t feel like sticking to any routine. It is my off day and I just want to be and stay in bed. Today, I feel like giving up.

However, below are the things I tried to remind myself whenever I feel like giving up.

  • Consider your thought 

The human mind is a suggestion engine. Every thought you have should be seen as a suggestion and not an order. For example, right now my mind is telling me that I am too tired and cannot be asked to go visit my niece. This is my mind suggesting that I give up. if I take a moment, I will also discover new suggestions. Like, I will feel good knowing that I was able to get something done even at my lowest. I will feel good knowing that I can stick to a schedule and the identity I am building.

These suggestions are not order. They are just options, and you have the power to choose which option to follow.

  • Discomfort Is Temporary 

Feeling discomfort is temporary. Any habit can be over quickly. That gym workout will be finished and over in an hour or two. That report will be finished by the deadline you give yourself. The article you need to have up will be finished in just a moment.

Maintain perspective. Your life is good, and discomfort is temporary. Let your moment of discomfort strengthen you.

  • No regret 

I have never found myself feeling worse or bad after the hard work has been done. Although, there has been days I find it so hard to even start, but the feeling once I get it done is worth finishing. Sometimes, all you need is the courage to show up and get the job done.

Anyone can want a gold medal, only few are willing to train like an Olympian.

  • This is life

Really and truly, what is life without the daily battles and the little decisions we need to make regarding showing up and giving up? this moment is your life. Spend it doing something that will make you proud.

Let the word decides

So, what do I do when I feel like giving up? I show up like a badass and get it done anyways! Because that is what winners DO.

Do I always show up looking my best? Absolutely no. But it is not about judging how good or bad I am. It’s about doing the job and letting the world decide and see the result.

Book Review: The things you can see only when you slow down

Hey lovelies! Welcome to a new blog post of Kenny’s diary! In today blog, I will be going a review of the book I read for the month of February. THE THINGS YOU CAN SEE ONLY WHEN YOU SLOW DOWN by author Heamin Sunim.

This book teach me to stop and look at when I feel tired of this life. Heamin Sunim has used this book to encourage me and his readers to understand their feelings. He has used his book to teach people that life is not about just taking instead to listen.

It is essentially a guide to mindfulness, comprising spiritual advice on dealing with anything from relationships to stress and a book that is easy to dip in and out of.

It is divided in eight chapters, each focussing on a different topic: Rest, Mindfulness, Passion, Relationships, Love, Life, The Future, Spirituality.

Haemin has also used This book to tell about passion, being happy , forgiveness , relationship, love , life, future, spirituality. I am really glad i came across this book by Haemin Sunim.

Overall, This is a universalfeel good book and I will definitely be reading it again. But this time, from a different perspective. Or refer to it whenever I find myself in a situation of needing some words of wisdom on something specific. So, I recommend everyone read it at least once in their lifetime.

Kenny’s takeaway quote

“But if you calm yourself and look more deeply, you will see that the person who hurt you is suffering, too.”

How to Get into Finance

There are plenty of ways and opportunities in accountancy, investment management, banking and insurance for both school leavers and graduates.

I currently hold a masters in finance. So, I can tell you that it was not the most easiest thing, but with great determination and hard work, it is achievable and very rewarding. I did business in school, accounting for undergraduate and finance for postgraduate and I am looking to go into Investment banking within the finance sector.

There are two majors ways to get into the finance sector as a school leaver. You can go into University full time or go into apprenticeship and you can start earning while you learn. Some employers might even allow you work and complete a university degree at the time same

Finance is a highly competitive and rewarding field and getting into it can be a little bit challenging. However, with the right knowledge and skills, any one can break into the Finance industry.

The first step to getting into finance is to understand the different types of finance and the various roles within the field. Some of the most common types include investment banking, corporate finance, and asset management. Each of these areas has its own set of responsibilities and requires different skills and qualifications.

One of the most important things to do when getting into it is to gain a solid understanding of financial concepts and principles. This means studying economics, accounting, and business management. These subjects will provide you with the foundation of knowledge you need to be successful in the finance industry.

Another important step in getting into finance is to gain experience. This can be done through internships, part-time jobs, or volunteer work. These opportunities will provide you with hands-on experience and a chance to learn from experienced professionals. Additionally, they will give you an inside look into how the industry works and provide you with valuable connections and references.

In summary, getting into finance requires a combination of education, experience and the right mindset. With this, you can set yourself up for success and start building a rewarding career in finance.

Why is it so hard to keep up with routine?

Having a routine in place is All fun and games until it’s time to keep up with them and you realise just how hard it is. So, that brought me to the Question, why is it so hard to keep up with routine?

Keeping up with routine Takes a lot of dedications and Consistency. Consistency is one of the hardest things to do. Well at least, for me. I always have a lot of things on my table until it is time to actually get them done.

Keeping up with routine if you are an anxious person can also feel overwhelming and frustrating.

However, there is always a way to everything In life and below are some of the few steps you can take to keep yourself and your day to day life organised and tracked effectively.

Plan your habit – Having a schedule will keep you in control of your life and help in making sure you reach your goals.

Stay ahead of your schedule – waking up early and getting things don e earlier will put you ahead of most people in the world. This will motivates you to work fast and stay ahead.

Track your habit – successful people ensure they t’rack and measures their habits and growths in various ways. Every measurement yields feedback

Engage people around you- when you engage with people passively or directly, you won’t feel alone in your habit change because you’re not. There is always people who are more than happy to support you.

January Read- Living in the light Review

Hey lovelies! Welcome to a new week of kennysdiary. In todays blog post, I will be giving a review of the book I read this month, LIVING IN THE LIGHT by Shakti Gawain.

Living in the light is a personal growth and self help book. Shakti Gawain has used this book to teach readers how to lead a powerful way of life.

Personally, I feel like his book has one core truth to offer to its reader which is, always listen to your intuition, your immediate feelings, your first thoughts. Don’t analyze. Just be.

I’ve read couple of books, and all they do is claim to be able to “change your life,” but this one helps you see how to do that for yourself. Gawain helps remind us to let go of the everyday stresses and turn to the higher viewpoint, the overall pattern of our lives…..

This book willl definitely have an impact on how much self love I show myself. Gawain suggests that you take yourself on a romantic date. dress up, eat what makes you feel divine and write love letters, indulge in a bubble bath, etc. to remember how accessible romance is regardless of relationship status.

This is most likely a book I will read again and I suggests that everyone reads it at-least once in their lifetime!.

Kenny’s Takeaway Quote

You have to be willing to make “mistakes” to try something and fail

Self-Sabotage(r) – Destroying me before I’ve even begun

I don’t know if it Is just me, but I have this habit of always sabotaging myself when I have exceeded my inner thermostat setting. I will for no reason just crawl back into my old, familiar zone where I feel secure.

This happens to most people without them even realising it. We believe and never DO. This was always my thing. Once I have an idea, job applications to fill, blog post to write etc.. I just find a way to talk myself out of it and never do it. I would start something, have it planned out, prepare for whatever it is and when it is time to do it, click send, publish and list orders online, I could not DO it and I will find every possible reason on the planet not too.

I was so stuck in making myself believe that whatever I have created was not good enough and I did not have the capabilities to do it. I never consciously count my success…. My mind is always in the things I didn’t do well in and never what I did right.

In other for me to snap out of this, a friend had to let me know what I was subconsciously doing. I was telling her how I was not sure about launching my book or having it listed for sales and she snapped and encouraged me with reasons why I should stop doing this to myself, and it just felt like that was all I needed to hear to finally bring myself out of it.

stopping self-sabotage is not something that happens overnight. Surrounding yourself with positive people, building mental and emotional stability and a clear sense of self won’t happen with a snap of a finger. It will take time, but it is worth it.

people who self-sabotage uses the idea of success as a safe cover-up, rather than asking for the life they really want. I refuse to live a life that I would come to regret. so therefore, I have chosen to always count my success no matter how small and to always affirm myself in the morning. I spoke more about affirmations in my book.

So, this year, as I write this post, excited to graduate my Master’s degree this June and to create consistent content on my blog, I promise to love myself just a little bit more and keep doing me gracefully!. 

LOVE ALWAYS,

KENNY 

Things no one knows about me

Hey lovelies! Welcome to a new week of kennysdiary. Today, I have decided to put together a post for people who has not been following my blog and knows nothing about me.

Things no one knows about me!!

1. I’m a very sentimental person. I’ve always been the sibling/family member who hoard onto things for the longest. When I was growing up, one of my favourite things to keep was my old cloths and birthday cards. I’ve still got cards given to me years ago in my drawer Lol! I just have this habit of keeping everything that I find sentimental. My favourite sentimental item at the moment, is the frame gifted to me by my mum on my 21st birthday. I like to keep everything I do documented and kept.

2. When I’m feeling down, I go through my photo albums. I always go through my photo album with a smile on my face. I love memories. It’s like a therapy to me. They remind you of the good times and gives you the confidence that better times are coming.

3. I’m an emotional person, but sometimes I try to hide my emotions because I don’t want to feel weak or vulnerable.

4. I don’t like people feeling sorry for me. I like it when people care about me, but one of the reasons I try not to open up is because I don’t want them feeling sorry for me. I believe that life happens to all of us. The good happens and the true grit to survive happens too. Also, when people say they feel sorry for someone, I feel like they are making whatever situation it is, looks even worse than it already is.

5. I find cleaning therapeutic. I enjoy cleaning when I’m stressed or when I’m angry and want to keep calm. Having a clean house allows me to tidy up my mind and brings me fresh ideas. It makes me feel fresh, productive and happy!.

6. I love flowers. I love them so muchhh. They make me feel alive and bring positivity and warmth into my life. My favourite flowers are the Naomi roses .

I like a lot of things and there’s a whole lot of things you still need to know about me. But, this are the few ones I will love to share with you today!!

Happy New Year

Hey lovely people! Happy new year and welcome to the first blog post of kennysdiary.

What can I possibly say? We made it into the new year! 2023 whoop! Whoop!

After the countdown finishes on NYE each year, it suddenly feels like the whole world gets a fresh start. New Year’s Eve and the few days after it comes with a lot of positivity and excitement. However, something about 2023 feels different. I entered 2023 with the most positive mindset and for once, I am genuinely excited about what the year holds and has in store for me.

May the new year bless us all with good health, a lot of wealth, and happiness.

Cheers to a new year of rest and restoration for all of us. Here’s to me reading what I want and feel like reading and cutting off the people I feel like cutting off.

Also, I received my first roses of the year. The Red Naomi Roses are my favourite and I just feel like it brought some kind of positivity and warmth into my new years. 🧚🏽‍♀️

Wonderland: London in winter

My winter wonderland experience was one of the best experiences I’ve had in a minute. For once, it felt like Christmas.

Winter wonderland is a large annual Christmas event held in Hyde Park, London. It has been running for over 15 years and I’ve only visited for the first time ever this year.

There is a lot of rides to pick from. The first ride my date and I did was car race. I am not a big fan of speed, but I had a lot of fun doing this. It wasn’t too fast and not too slow either. Just the perfect speed for a scary cat like me. . When we finished the first activity, we went on to play some games. My date played a few popping of balloons and won me a small teddy that I love so much. After this, we went on to play for a bigger teddy. It took us about 3 rounds of playing to eventually win the big one because it was way more challenging than the small one. We then went to their food centre to get something to eat. We had chips and fish that was quite pricey, but it tasted good. Speaking of pricey, when visiting winter wonderland, just make sure you have your money ready because the cheapest thing to do there starts from £10. Matter of fact, the cheapest thing there was most definitely the entry ticket.

After eating, we decided to do one more activity. So went on the Euro-Coaster. When I tell you that my heart dropped!!! It dropped all the way to the floor. If you know me, you know one of my biggest fears is height. Doing this ride, I will say made me face that fear. But goodness me! it took courage. I was crying at some point and just wanted to come down, but it was too late. Once you are sited and strapped, it’s a wrap. Just enjoy the ride and pray to make it back down safely

after this ride, we decided to call it a night and make our way back home. Altogether, we spent about 2 hours and considering how cold it is there, I wouldn’t want to or recommend staying any longer than that to be honest.

Also, I will advise that you dress up properly to the location as it was extremely cold! At some point, I was convinced that the temperature was part of the aesthetic because it felt like I was in antarctica lol. But my date said it was because it’s an open space, which made total sense.

I look forward to going again because I really enjoyed myself and if you are yet to go, I will advise that you make time to visit. It was totally worth it.

Xxxx